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Self-growth

How do we develop ourselves into better human beings?

What steps can we take to become wiser, more self-aware and more humble?

Self-growth is a topic that I think about a lot and when I am interacting with others in my environment, I feel saddened by the fact that so many people don’t seem to acknowledge their weaknesses, don’t find time to make improvements in their life and just seem to be on a path of complaining & under-valuing their lives.

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Although I acknowledge that in my own journey there are many things that I may not be able to completely change, due to circumstance or mental illness, I definetely aspire to bettering myself on a daily basis.

One of the biggest motivations for most people to make changes for the better, comes from a feeling that something isn’t quite right in their lives. They are either too stressed, too angry or just simply feeling depressed. They may start noticing certain destructive patterns repeating in their life and feel completely stuck in trying to make changes.

This is where coaching can be really useful and for the more complex mental health issues, therapy can also be an invaluable source for self-growth.

Although many people think that they have things under control, it is those same people that actually live chaotic lives and just don’t seem to prioritise their own self-development. They aren’t able to be introspective and they remain in the same state of mind most of their lives. They end up reaching the age of 60 and are still acting in ways that are either unhelpful, harmful to others or self-sabotaging.

So what is the first step to self-growth?

What is the one, most important thing that can motivate us to start making lasting changes?

  1. We must acknowledge our weaknesses- It is helpful to write a list as honestly as possible about the things we really struggle with and want to work on. It is good to spend as much time on this as possible, looking at all areas in our life: relationships, work, spiritual, physical health, mental health etc..It might also be helpful to ask close family or friends for feedback about this. Which areas do they think we struggle in. It might not be easy to hear about our struggles at first, especially if we are not aware of them. In the long-term however, it could be very beneficial to us.

 

  • It is important to set 1 goal at a time in the area we would like to improve in.

 

  • We need to realise that change happens when we break out of bad habits and form new healthier ones. Again this needs to be broken down into smaller goals, by breaking out of 1 bad habit at a time and forming 1 new healthy habit.

 

  • We have to accept full responsibility for all areas in our life. This means that we have to fully accept that we are the only ones who can make changes. We can blame others until we go blue in the face but at the end of the day, it is our job to improve our lives. Accepting responsibility of course, doesn’t mean that we completely ignore certain disabilites we may have or certain traumatic events that we may have experienced. It means that we fully own our journey and embrace the unpleasant things we aren’t able to change by grieving them whilst also trying to have gratitude for the things that we are fortunate to have and are able to do.

 

  • Enrich our world with learning and doing courses in self-development

 

  • Growth comes when we face certain challenges. We have to push ourselves to move out of our comfort zone. Sometimes the things that scare us the most hide the biggest opportunities for self-growth. It is important to face these fears and see how far we can get.

 

What is your experience with self-growth? Have you looked inside yourself to see if something needs to change?

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Love Athina ♥

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4 thoughts on “Self-growth

  1. I agree in principle. Self development is a work in progress. I do find difficulty with self “improvement” because it stops me from trying to learn to say “I’m good enough”. If I could do that “without” having to improve all my weaknesses then I’d be on the road to feeling a whole lot better and have a more stable sense of self. So, in a nutshell–self improvement. Yes. But writing a list of my weaknesses would just put me into a spiral of self loathing — and I’m actually pretty good at that already (sigh).

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    1. Fair point Serena. If anyone struggles with not feeling good enough, then it is of course a lot tougher to list their weaknesses without feeling awful. In my experience, focusing on one ‘weakness at a time’ makes this easier and it helps a lot to write a list of daily successes, no matter how small. Breaking goals into smaller steps and congratulating oneself in each small step taken to turn our weaknesses into strengths.

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  2. It easier to blame than to take action at times. I feel sometimes it is a very big journey to see the part we have played in things. It may take a lot of time and some people never get there. I am far from self grown. I am humble enough to admit that. ❤

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    1. I absolutely agree Deborah. Blaming is of course easier when we are in emotional pain and aren’t able to deal with our flaws. I have also been there..Awareness is key though..and the fact that you are humble to admit that you still have a way to go is admirable! Self-growth is a journey and of course this differs for everyone. Each person achieves different levels of self-growth and that is at least something! ❤

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