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Dealing with elderly narcissistic parents

As narcissists start ageing, things actually get much much worse.When they are no longer able to charm others with their good looks, good health & successful business, they start losing control over others and their mask starts to fall.

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Narcissistic people live their life as pathological liars and bullies, so as they age further, instead of maturing, they just get worse. They become more demanding, more cruel and more horrible in their elderly years.They still try to manipulate others but aren’t very good at remembering the lies they have told, so people  catch them out in their lies.Their immaturity and tantrums become even more evident and healthy colleagues,friends & family start distancing themselves even more.

If you are someone who is emotionally struggling with an ageing narcissistic parent, just remember that you don’t owe them anything. You didn’t ask to be born into a family that was abusive. You don’t have to look after them when they are dying or when they are seriously ill. As a healthy son or daughter, your love is unconditional so they might exploit that for their own gain and still treat you like crap.

No matter what you decide to do, don’t do it out of guilt or because you feel you owe them for providing you with food and shelter.

You always have the right to walk away and look after yourself first.It doesn’t mean you stop loving them. It just means that you put your own health first.

Love Athina ♥

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3 thoughts on “Dealing with elderly narcissistic parents

  1. This is really good! I hadn’t thought how narcissism would worsen with age, but it totally makes sense!! Thanks for this 😃

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  2. That’s interesting. It does indeed worsen with age. I cared for my narcissistic mother right to the end–I had to. And somehow now she’s just died I’m not sure that I regret looking after her. Somehow I couldn’t abandon her and would never have forgiven myself. I suppose it was because I had insight and she didn’t. I know I could have walked away but I just didn’t have it in me. Yes, it cost me emotionally but I’m still pleased that I did what I did for her,

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    1. Each experience is unique and if you felt that what you did for her was right for you, then that is all that matters. I am sorry you had a narcissistic mother and that she has now passed away. It is very tough! Thanks for taking the time to comment.

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